Is marriage the loss of a friend?

Had gone home to attend a dear friend's(RSK) wedding...Had a great time...Though I had gone banking my hopes on meeting lots of batch mates from college n school, couldn't see even a single person...

The topic of the blog jus crossed my mind when the marriage ceremony was going on...Am I losing a friend? I know I'm not the kind of person who always takes the initiative in keeping touch with friends...Not that I'm not keen to...but mostly laziness gets the better of me...there are times when I feel that putting a two line mail to friends is a big job...and procrastination has always been my constant companion...

RSK and I studied in the same class from 9th...and later we were in the same college, though in different streams...we were good friends, our friendship accentuated by the fact that our homes were close by, our sisters studied together, n other common factors...we went to the same place for tuitions when at school, talked endlessly about a lot concerns regarding studies, friends n relatives, gossips, future, ambitions...at times, found a lot of solace in each other's company...some school heroisms when she literally brought a sick "me"(barely conscious) from school to home, all by herself...even in college, we never ran out of common topics…had always people and problems to share with each other…were constant companions in weekend travels to and from home…our dads' would bring us to the bus station, we’d get our seats in the bus(I’ll get my window seat) and then stare down at our dads discussing their problems…n every time, I get back home from work, she’d come over home to meet me and spend sometime talking with me…memories are endless...

Mixed feelings at her marriage…happy to see her happy…thrilled to see her dazzling on the stage…a bit of concern for her…a silent prayer for her happy times ahead…a little bit sad that she is not going to be around for “on call support” as she had been and that distance (kms) between us is going to increase…More and more gals joining the “red headed league”...Hope we all remember what role we had in each others lives, n remain close to each other the way we were...

2 comments:

addict 3:46 PM  

well, u have mentioned in your profile that writing long mails is one of ur hobbies...
but in this particular post, u say laziness makes to not to even write a couple of lines and mail it to ur friends!
i found it very strange actually...
;-)

chers!
chethan

Anonymous 11:31 AM  

Chethan,
AS I am also one of those who goes through the same procastinate syndrome, let me help you understand this. This is a particular habit "If we Sit down to do something, we try & do it very well or with dedication." But Procastination takes the better of us invariably, things get done a little late generally.
Reshmi .....hope I managed to explain..this...Madhu